M, that was some very sound advice and I would like to say you are way more mature than I am,lol! I have a terrible temper and a very short fuse and although you are right I do have a choice on how I react, I have to say my reaction is usually explosive..some day I may actually grow up....only time will tell
When I read your post it was as if though you were writing about me! I am known as a over achiever, a hard ass and most times a bitch but not because i am truly mean but I am one of those you get what you give me kind of girls! I don't consider myself dark however I do acknowledge my dark side and at times fear it...not because i think i will hurt someone but because of the doors it opens. In my situation I am also always open to the dark spirits which is sometimes very scary, i am working on controlling this but for now I remain me but always anxious!!