thank you all for your replies. I will consider your advisements before taking any action.
BeanSiFiain, you might be interested in the Walnut Bath posted in the 'Love is not Enough' thread?
Personally, I feel that if you've cut ties magically and physically (in the sense of cutting them out of your life) then there is no need to bind them. It depends on what sort of thing you're dealing with, but in my experience people need to work things out for themselves. I'd be concerned that if you performed a binding, it may actually stop her from reaching a point where she realises she's a 'mess' and decides to seek help/make changes. It's difficult to say, as I'm not sure what exactly you want to bind? Obviously an aspect of her behaviour, but it depends on what it is as to what is appropriate. Obviously, it differs with everyone as everyone has different ethics, but weighing up the pros and cons is important. What kind of hex or curse are you considering? Have you talked anything through with her? What's her response been like?
For me to bind someone, they need to be a big issue. If I'd cut them out already, it really depends on what the behaviour is as to whether I'd do it. Using a poppet as Aefre mentions above can be a great one, (loving the freezer idea as well from Nera, saved that in mind for later). Was a poppet your thought, or did you have something else in mind? I have made poppets with emphasised parts eg. lips to bind words, and those have worked well, or similarly something which represented the behaviour I wanted to bind along with something of their's (nail/hair etc) wrapped tightly in a net. A friend of mine nailed cloth to wood as part of a binding, which could easily be altered to bind to an area by nailing to a map. Cursing someone I don't do lightly, for a novice, I wouldn't personally recommend it until they felt comfortable understanding possible repercussions for themselves from all angles. I also recommend waiting - we can make decisions in the heat of the moment that we come to really regret; that said it depends on what's been done. If someone had been hurting my child and I found out, I'd want the heat of that moment to fuel the curse, but if they've simply hurt or deceived me I'm more likely to wait and think about whether it's something I truly want to do.
Agree about cutting the cord, if you feel you need to. Hope something in this is helpful.
ive had some small time to chew on this. my initial idea with a curse (which I have left on the back burner for now) was influenced by the tradition of leaving an undoing in it. in the tradition ive been studying, it is commonplace to include a 'way out' for the subject. for instance, some beneficent act by the target, that breaks the curse.
in fact, yes, a poppet was what I was looking to use to bind them from particular behaviors. I have pretty full idea of how id go about it.
first, though, Im going to look for the thread you suggested. thank you.
this isn't about my child, nor is it about any filthy acts against a child, thankfully enough. but if one more conversation was enough to effect any change, I wouldn't be considering magic in this instance. I wish it was a matter of them finding themselves a way out of a thicket of life's turmoils, but things have been far past that point already.
You cannot simultaneously cut the cord with someone and then bind them from acting; one negates the other. However, you also say she’s “not a psychokiller” but admit you want to “quench” something. If you’re after revenge, cutting the cord is definitely not going to work.
this is certainly a consideration, seeing as I would prefer to avoid anything but the most superficial contact with them anymore. and revenge isn't much of a motivator. I only meant that I wouldn't feel satisfied that I had done what I could if all I did was to cut the cord. my concern is for those in this person's life who are in in their destructive path.
I also feel it is worth mentioning that myself and the other individual are not youths, and considering the opiate epidemic, it may be worth mentioning that this is not a substance abuse issue.
Edited by BeanSiFiain, 07 October 2018 - 04:55 PM.