I look at magic the same way I look at my hands. They're just hands. If I were to knock on your door, and you open it, I could do many things with my hands. I could hug you, punch you, shake your hand, pass you a gift, or keep them by my sides. It's not the fact that I'm using my hands that makes my actions in that moment selfish; they're just hands. It's my choices that determine whether or not I'm being selfish. To me, it's the same with magic.
And there are different degrees of selfishness, and in my mind, sometimes it's ok, and sometimes it's not. But I don't necessarily think helping yourself is selfish. I eat everyday to stay alive. But I don't think that is selfish. Do I constantly steal food from someone else so I can live, while they starve to death? Yeah, that's selfish. I'd prefer we both split the food We could honestly take any behaviour from our lives and question whether or not we do those things out of selfishness or not. And yet, we don't with any other behaviour, and we do with our magic. I don't feel anymore selfish or guilty or whatever about my magic than I do with anything else in my life. When I first started, I did feel guilty and a bit scared, but I think that was more to do with all the hype about magic being evil, etc. I trust my judgement, 99% of the time, and I'm sure if you opened the door to me, you're showing that you trust me enough to know what to do with my hands.
That's my thing with magic; we need to trust each others' judgement more when people have proven themselves in other areas to be trustworthy.
Edited by Tricycle, 07 November 2017 - 10:35 AM.