Michele, I quite agree with you
I'm just wondering if dirt from a crem that has ashes mixed with it can be used, especially if it has 'ancestral' qualities? I would've preferred just my mums ashes as I am pondering upon the effects of taking home 'others'.
That I can't answer as I don't work with graveyards... in my way of working I will leave those in the graveyards to their rest. I will use dirt from a pet's grave in the back yard, but only for what it symbolizes- laying something to rest, be it an argument, ill feelings, whatever. But actual grave-spirits I don't work with.