if you have a look through old posts, some going back to 2006, you will find a lot of questioning posts by members of one another. It's been part of the site since it started, it can be a different dynamic from other sites. It's not better or worse, just different.
You will also notice that in many of the older threads members got quite heated in their discussions, but in general it's served to clarify their understanding of one anothers perspectives. Much of ths is understandable when considering the wide range of Traditions of our members and their differing life experiences. The challenge and response (and indeed pointed questions at times) have sometimes led to ruffled feathers but in the main have served to broaden members' understanding of one another and their understanding of others practices as far as such can be explained or alluded to in what is a public forum.
Naturally Moderators will have a word where they feel it necessary to do so, it hasn't happened too often due to the sites members being generally able to moderate themselves and either draw back from discussions or find clarification by private message.
Brian, overall I would agree with you. I have been on sites that were quite vitriolic and also encouraged other-faith bashing. This place is actually a breath of fresh air, almost everyone is positive and constructive and i feel that many are actual friends if only in the aethernet. What caused me pause was the manner in which one or two people were treated with an edge quite cutting. Maybe I AM "sensitive" to things like this.
After finding this place i shall not be leaving easily, I may withdraw some of my posts for a while and be a spectator, a pause can be good.
Thank you for taking the time to post the above.