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#1 Kalinia

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Posted 23 July 2016 - 08:33 PM

This is basically going to be what I call a "tea time ramblings" post. I'm just lazily laying around, sipping tea and thinking about a few things that I'd like to bring up with hopes that it may spark up a conversation.

For as long as I have been studying and practicing witchcraft I have always longed for the stereotypical coven connection. To have one or a few really close friends to follow a similar path with and practice together. I've been a part of things like that a few times but it was never good enough for me. It wasnt a good fit. We had different beliefs and work ethics.

As much as I crave that, I am a very introverted person and to be honest without hopefully sounding too rude, I don't connect or enjoy the majority of people that I interact with in person, so finding this connection would be quite tough!

I feel like I am missing out on something, or more so that something is missing by me always doing things craft or spirituality related alone. Almost like an empty feeling. I long for it yet really put in no effort to find it because of my sheer lack of desire to actually leave my house/family and attempt to find this. Sounds silly huh?

I've been to many gatherings and festivals etc and met some of the covens who are local and while they seemed like lovely people, I couldn't help but feel like I was meeting people straight off of Tumblr.

So I wonder, do you prefer doing everything in your practice alone, or enjoy the company of other like minded people? What are your experiences?

Edited by Kalinia, 23 July 2016 - 08:35 PM.

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#2 Oroboros

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Posted 24 July 2016 - 03:17 AM

I don't think it's silly at all. I think on some level everyone here must want a bit of witchy connectedness, or else why be HERE.

At the danger of speaking for others and being errant- we are a weird lot... I have noticed many people on here apparently suffers from some degree of social anxiety like myself. And it seems to be part and parcel of the path to have spent most of one's life feeling somewhat on the fringe and different than others. I personally literally NEED regular alone time to function properly. I have seen several on here that seem to value their solitude as well. So there is that.
On the other hand, here we all are. And I have noticed many others, like myself, lamenting the fact that they live somewhere with no like-minded folks to be found. And citing this as one of the reasons for gravitating here.

I think for ME in a perfect world I would prefer most of my practice remain solitary. However, I would LOVE to have local witch friends to do group workings with sometimes. BUT just as you said, the likelihood of me finding someone who practices AND I click with are not great. The idea of finding a group like that is very very unlikely.

But, I will say, I certainly enjoy and appreciate some of you guys:).

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#3 Kalinia

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Posted 24 July 2016 - 04:35 AM

You put that so well! Thank you for your thoughts. It's definitely a mix of wanting to be alone yet longing for a special connection with like minded people. I agree that I'd prefer a lot of alone time but with group workings once in a while with people I truly get along with and don't just show kindness for the sake of being kind, and can simply be myself around.

This is a wonderful place

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#4 Stacey

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Posted 24 July 2016 - 05:57 AM

I have witch friends that I connect with but a lot of the time we end up socialising more than doing witchcraft as such. I prefer solitary, I am really not a people person and I, like so many, need mass amounts of alone time to function properly. I'd rather avoid people for the most part if at all possible. It is nice to spend time with likeminded folk, go to an event or two but ultimately, I like doing things on my own but it is nice to be able to converse with people and not have the 'the fuck is she on about?' look and it's nice to have active, engaging discourse on the topic witchcraft., sharing ideas, trading stories, learning.

 

But I think sometimes you have to find your tribe, those who are on a similar path or similar practice who you can be yourself with and practice your particular flavour of Craft with.


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Posted 24 July 2016 - 02:48 PM

I 've recently ackowledged the fact that I am best working on my own. I have always valued my solitude although I am generally a sociable person, but I don't fare well in crowds or large groups of people. Over the last few years I have met and made friends with people with varying beliefs and practices, none of whom I've felt any real connection....their 'stuff' just didn't make sense or seem relevant to me, so I made the decision to stop looking and embrace what felt right deep down, me on my own :-). Being part of this communtiy is wonderful as so many people have similar experiences and ideas to me I actually feel that I belong, with losing my precious solitary space.


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#6 Zombee

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Posted 24 July 2016 - 03:39 PM

Yea, everything you all have said. I thrive in solitude and also enjoy kibitzing with like spirits. If there is a non-conformist gene that is attached to the witch gene, I got it. It's ingrained. Ive been in a group and we were a pretty mixed but bonded set. Then life happens and people move away, get other priorities, yadda yadda. A group both takes energy and gives energy. Yet, I need solitude like breathing.
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#7 westofthemoon

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Posted 24 July 2016 - 05:08 PM

I prefer to work on my own. However, like Stacey, I have witchy friends I socialize with & there is also a thriving "pagan" community in my city if I want to mingle with the fluffies & the heathens ;) I have only done work with one friend in the lower 48, but our methods were too different to mash up well.
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#8 Nikki

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Posted 24 July 2016 - 08:12 PM

I don't confuse MY Path with Practice.

 

Walking Path is solitary (and where my Practice takes shape)

 

It's not easy to be odd-girl out in the mundane society. Having other Witches in my life helps a lot.

 

I love what other witches bring to the table. What they do and how they view craft allows me to explore the deeper parts of myself - which enhances my Practice.

 

Knowing that I'm not *alone* is priceless.


Edited by Nikki, 24 July 2016 - 08:12 PM.

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#9 Kalinia

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Posted 24 July 2016 - 09:14 PM

I really enjoyed reading all of these replies :)
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Posted 25 July 2016 - 12:10 AM

Just like everyone else here I need my alone time. I need it to recharge, to think, to practice, and to enjoy. But I think completely isolating myself from any other witches would bring some stagnation. I don't want a coven, and I don't want to practice with anyone else, but getting to read other opinions and ideas, and having like-minded people to bounce ideas off of helps keep my own path moving forward.


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#11 Mistflower

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Posted 25 July 2016 - 12:52 PM

Another one here that REALLY needs loads of time alone in order to be able to function. Or at least, alone with cats and dog and whatever other creatures turn up.

 

Contact through this forum is priceless though. It's like the best of both worlds. We are so lucky to live in these times and have the internet!


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#12 Nera

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Posted 25 July 2016 - 06:59 PM

I'm the most comfortable being alone .. well, with my 4 cats. I don't even have any close friends or relatives, ... I just can't deal with that, all that energy from other people. And I am certainly not searching for the covens. Sure, I feel lonely sometimes, but not to the point of actualy actively looking for a company. Just yesterday, I was driving through my neighbourghood and I saw a house that have certain "witchy" stuff around the house and yard. So, I was thinking, hmmm, I wonder if a witch lives there and wouldn't it be nice to come together sometime and chat. Well, 10 seconds later, I thought, oh, no, no way. I prefer my life just the way it is. I have you guys ;-)
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#13 Zombee

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Posted 25 July 2016 - 07:43 PM

Whoa, blurry vision, I read the title as the LOONY path and was all set to join a new discussion. I've already had my meds...

Edited by Zombee, 25 July 2016 - 07:46 PM.

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#14 Nera

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Posted 25 July 2016 - 08:47 PM

^^ Hahaha oh, but a loony path would be a good description as well... :-D
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who walk life's ragged mile

hid' beneath Man's common guise.

Yet such are they that seem by day,

who walk abroad by night."


#15 Nikki

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Posted 26 July 2016 - 07:43 PM

Aint' that the truth !!! LMAO


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I Love you as certain Dark Things are to be Loved,
In Secret, Between the Shadow and the Soul.
- Pablo Neruda