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#121 vyvyan

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Posted 15 November 2015 - 10:27 PM

I get weird looks all the time, but that comes from dressing as strangely as I do. I'm used to it. I can't really tell if people are treating me differently becuase I've been on some form of a path since about the age of 10. To me, it seems that people have been acting weirder to me since I've become more serious about my path. I'm trying to learn more and I'm always reading or practicing something different. I'm an shy but not entirely an introvert. I'm somewhere in between. I like to talk to different people. I want to be a healer but I'm unsure of how I want to go about it proper yet.
Summarizing, I have no clue. I guess they do treat me a little differently.

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#122 Oroboros

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Posted 23 November 2015 - 09:06 PM

I tend to make people uncomfortable because IM REALLY honest (at times blunt bordering on rude, but working on that.) I absolutely suck ass at gatherings that require you to smile and talk about absolutely nothing (how's the weather, how did you tupperwear party go blah blah b.s.). I mean Im BAD at "making small talk." Apparently, this is a requirement in many circles and that inability combined with being overly upfront tends to make people uncomfortable. :) except, those who really appreciate that characteristic which tend to be my type of person anyway:).

Earlier in this thread there were people discussing "getting bigger" when they are angry or threatened. I wondered if this was intentional or incidental for most? I can tell you if there is a threat or something I perceive as a threat and my KIDS are with me- look out. I can feel the penultimate mother lion beast protruding in every direction and have had enough instances of someone turning on there heel either literally or behaviorally - that whatever that is others can see it, but for me it is not a conscious effort it just happens. Interestingly a psychic (a real one) I happened to be chatting with once, who knew nothing about me, advised "if you are ever in danger, pretend your girls are with you and you will be fine," which I recognized as spot on advice.

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#123 Zombee

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Posted 06 June 2016 - 01:26 AM

I don't think I'm at all intimidating in groups; not the first person you'd notice entering the room, and people don't "hear" me or what I say, unless we are one-on-one. Then it's a different dynamic. I don't do crowds. Black Friday at the mall would vaporize me. And I have needed a cane for several years now;if I go down I need a lift-assist to get back on my feet which is a real pain in the patoot. I may look and move like a Crone, but at heart I'm still 16 (flutter eyelashes). And I can hit you with the cane, but I generally prefer to honor other people's space; social niceties may help smooth someone's crappy day so they stop polluting the air-space with crankiness. I think of it as social ecology.
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#124 Belle

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Posted 06 June 2016 - 02:16 AM

In general no. People seem to like me and I make them feel comfortable most of the time. I talk to strangers and I seem like a nice friendly lady when I am out in public.

 

These people don't have any idea about what I do. Nobody does. My family knows I do things but they have no idea about what I really do. They don't care either. Most people wouldn't even get it. 

 

I think the 'vibe' is friendly and people are usually very nice to me in real life. 


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#125 Mistflower

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Posted 06 June 2016 - 08:11 AM

I'm able to make most people feel comfortable, especially in my own home, and relate well to different people from different walks of life and background. And also people of different ages - old people and children - and teenagers. I enjoy interacting with my children's peers(who are teens)- and my children get told by their peers that they have a nice mum! There is always a limit though, with teens.

I have had people turn against me quite violently however, at various times in my past, for no particular reason i can tell, just an energy thing maybe.  It has usually been based in some kind of jealousy about something,  and for that reason, jealousy is the one emotion I will not tolerate,I find it the most destructive emotion there is, and I will not entertain it  and distance myself from anything like it. Even in jest, i will never say things like,"ooh I'm so jealous of you!" because to me it's just a bad thing.

 

I need my own space and time to recharge, and enjoy my own company. Reading back over the thread, I also like to wear black a lot, including in the summer, but always felt that's just because it suits my colouring (which it does). I'm fascinated by those of you whose eyes change colour - that's cool! Mine are only ever blue-grey.


Edited by Mistflower, 06 June 2016 - 08:21 AM.

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#126 ArcticWitch

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Posted 06 June 2016 - 07:02 PM

I have had people turn against me quite violently however, at various times in my past, for no particular reason i can tell, just an energy thing maybe.  It has usually been based in some kind of jealousy about something, 

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This has been happening to me my entire life.  No one (friends, lovers, coworkers, ex in-laws) believes me about it until they see it happen.  It happens MUCH less frequently since I began formally practicing witchcraft- makes me think that I was "leaking" a little too much of my energy before I learned how to properly wield it.  The "displacement factor" for this is that although I seem to inspire less violent outbreaks in total strangers, I now attract a lot more people who need someone to talk to about a long-term challenge or problem.  Not a bad trade, if you ask me! ;)


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#127 lalinrises

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Posted 07 June 2016 - 03:07 AM

I have the opposite effect on people. I find that it's usually people who are dealing with some sort of crisis or issue that are attracted to me the most. I tend to give them good advice and I'm a good listener. I find this trait really annoys certain other people who are more seemingly in control of their feelings. I'm also an introvert and have a hard time making meaningful connections with others. So, people I may help will sometimes latch on to me only to be disappointed when it's not reciprocated. Also, I tend to be perceived as emotionally fragile when this is not the case.
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#128 Llyr

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Posted 07 June 2016 - 01:58 PM

I tend to not like people...or a more accurate statement is that I don't trust people. The problem with that is that I am really happy being on my own and I always feel powerful because of it. I don't rely on anyone, my family are everything to me and when I am with them we just have fun and laugh most of the time...(that being said.. my one son is 15 now and seems to have forgotten what fun is... and what manners are..and how to speak!! lol)

 

I do attract people though even though I would not go to anyone and introduce myself. I don't know if people can sense my energy or if people can see that I am happy and content with myself and don't care about them and so won't judge them or what??

 

who knows.... but when we are on holiday for example we always attract people who want to give us their telephone numbers at the end of the holiday and want us to visit them etc.... we have never taken anyone up on that... and it is actually quite frustrating that people want to join us because we are happy being our own little group.

 

I don't think I intimidate people... certainly not since I have "grown up" into adult life.

 

I don't go out drinking with anyone apart from my wife on special occasions. I don't socialise with anyone because I spend time with my kids, my "me" time, I train (fitness) and study.

 

I am happy with where I am in my life and don't really "see" people outside of it.

 

Does that even make sense??


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#129 westofthemoon

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Posted 07 June 2016 - 02:15 PM

I have the opposite effect on people. I find that it's usually people who are dealing with some sort of crisis or issue that are attracted to me the most. I tend to give them good advice and I'm a good listener. I find this trait really annoys certain other people who are more seemingly in control of their feelings. I'm also an introvert and have a hard time making meaningful connections with others. So, people I may help will sometimes latch on to me only to be disappointed when it's not reciprocated. Also, I tend to be perceived as emotionally fragile when this is not the case.


Me too! I could have written that! Of course, some of the people who asked for advice ended up being good friends of mine. So then I get to be annoyed when they don't take it. ;)

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#130 lalinrises

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Posted 07 June 2016 - 07:50 PM

Me too! I could have written that! Of course, some of the people who asked for advice ended up being good friends of mine. So then I get to be annoyed when they don't take it. ;)


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Oh, they never take it! I had a friend who got really mad at me for the advice I gave was not what she wanted to hear. Few days later she actually apologized for being upset at me but, of course still didn't take my advice.

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Posted 09 June 2016 - 05:11 AM

 

I have had people turn against me quite violently however, at various times in my past, for no particular reason i can tell, just an energy thing maybe.  It has usually been based in some kind of jealousy about something,  and for that reason, jealousy is the one emotion I will not tolerate,I find it the most destructive emotion there is, and I will not entertain it  and distance myself from anything like it. Even in jest, i will never say things like,"ooh I'm so jealous of you!" because to me it's just a bad thing.

 

 

I've had this happen to me my whole life as well, and I've never quite figured out what makes it happen. I don't know if it's jealousy when it happens to me, but I've had an interesting string of enemies throughout my life. 


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#132 AuroraBaenSidhe

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Posted 09 June 2016 - 01:45 PM

I tend to intimidate people from the moment they see me. I've never understood it really as I don't think of myself as an intimidating person. Nor do the majority of my very close friends(though that could have something to do with the fact that they were not always the upstanding folks they are today and have seen many things.) 
I suppose it could be the simple fact that witches work so closely with energy while most people just sort of exist in it. I suppose it must be the equivalent of knowing what words do and seeing them versus actually reading and understanding them. Another theory of mine which I'm sure is shared by many is that witches attract spirits of many types and that tends to be noticeable if only by 'vibe'


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#133 Kalinia

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Posted 11 June 2016 - 06:04 PM

Some people are very intimidated by me because I have a strong personality, and a strong work ethic in my industry. I am open with my beliefs and practice, so often people are curious, and sometimes they are nervous. Being introverted, I am okay with them being nervous, and being cautious around me. 


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