Just because someone has magical potential, has decided to be a witch, or even casts spells, does not mean they lead a magical life.
It is my humble opinion that most people are planted firmly in the physical plane. Overlaid on this physical plane is a magical world which perhaps many people can see but most choose to ignore. At this time, I am of a mind that many people can access and tap in to these unseen energies with both feet in the physical realm.
It is also my belief that some people (I do not know if everyone has the ability to do so, but it seems to be common amongst witches) are able to shift their realities from being totally physical to being at least partially magical. I believe this is not done simply by cognitively believing that there is magic in the world, but by making an actual shift in mind and spirit from the physical realm to the magical one.
For example: When I joined TW I had both feet firmly planted in the physical realm. I really super wanted to be a witch, but I did not feel like a witch. Working with magic was fun but ultimately felt like a chore to me, because it did not "click". As my understanding grew I felt more and more unsatisfied because it was becoming more and more obvious to me that I did not possess that special "something" that made a real witch. When I was given Green membership I took a break from TW and did not intend to come back - even though I knew magic was real, I consciously decided that I just couldn't hack it and I resigned myself to quit trying to be a witch and just live a mundane life. (Fortunately, it was not so easy for me to ignore the call back in to the fold).
I believe my issue was that I was so stuck in the physical world that I could not grasp the awareness that all the other witches seem to have. Even though I truly cognitively believed in the magical world, I was not a part of the magical world, and this left me feeling estranged to the point where I gave up. I believe recently I have finally started to dip my toes in to the magical world, which gives me both an incredible sense of relief and the sense that things are Right within myself.
My situation has made me think of the Stepping Back from the Craft thread. It makes me wonder if some people who have the ability to communicate with spirits and cast spells never made the transition in to a magical life, and therefore find their path to inevitably be an obligation or a chore (like I did). My post in that thread reflects my thoughts here.
I also think that for someone who has the potential or calling to be a part of the magical world, being stuck in the mundane one might be very distressing or damaging - the same way that a magical child could find the unseen world to be distressing if they do not understand what they are going through.
How can a neophyte witch make the change? I was able to begin the shift on my own, but can anybody do that? Is it fair to say a witch should always be able to do it on their own?
Once a witch initially begins to see the world through magical eyes, can the connection be lost? Can a witch step in and out of the magical world as they please, or is it out of their control?
I hypothesize that a key difference between a mundane person who casts spells, and a witch, is that a witch has the ability or potential to walk with one foot in the unseen world, while a mundane person cannot. Likewise, surrounding yourself with potions, spells, and spirits means you have a lot of magic in your life, but you do not necessarily see the world through magical eyes. I would be very interested to hear people's thoughts on this! I also think it would be very interesting to hear from people who have been magical from childhood, who never needed to make a transition.
I think that if I had encountered a discussion on magical awareness when I was a Blue member, it would have made it easier for me to understand why I felt such a disconnect and it may have emboldened me to continue on my path without so much self-doubt (even though things seemed to have worked out okay for me in the end).